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Adele
The Huggy Merchant
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 Posted - August 23 2002 : 07:12:19 AM
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I have been watching the posts flying back and forth between Anthony and several others regarding his need to bring his 'gayness' into his posts, and I thought I would bring my thoughts into the appropriate forum (this is the appropriate one, isn't it? Personal Stuff!)
I think a lot of us have a dominating 'issue' in our lives...mine is autism, because my son, Connor is autistic, and for the last few years, not through any choice, I have talked, walked, eaten, slept, lived autism. It is because I have had to, in order to do the best for my son. Because of this overwhelming factor in my life, I have found myself relating almost everything else to autism. We could discuss almost anything, and somehow I could make a connection to autism, because there is always a part of me that is consciously or subconsciously thinking about it. It is not because I want to do it...believe me...quite the opposite! Most of the time, I am trying to get a break from it...and this board is one of my escapes. However, it doesn't stop me from mentioning it from time to time, and I find that quite frequently, I have to make a conscious effort to NOT talk about it...for my own good! There is a lot more to me than my son's disability, and I want to be sure that people see that - I don't want the consensus to be 'oh my god, does that woman not have ANYTHING else to talk about??' One of the reasons I like talking to Lainey about our kids so much is that she makes me feel like the topic is 'parenting'...not 'parenting special needs children'.
Anyway, I guess the point that I am getting to (in my usual long winded way) is that I think it is quite hard to put aside ones 'issue' (whatever it may be) and focus on the subject at hand, but I believe it is worth the effort. The nice thing about this new board is that there is space for us to talk about anything....if Anthony wants to discuss an aspect of homosexuality in the Lions Den or in this forum, I am positive it would be a lively discussion, and I would certainly contribute. But it would also be nice to know, as I think Diane was saying in her post, what else is Anthony about? Your opinions on the movie, and the other topical discussions tell us about you....but sometimes, what you are saying falls into the background whilst your own personal dominating issue, being gay, takes precedence. At the end of the day, there is more to you than your sexuality, the same as, there is more to me than autism (although sometimes it doesn't FEEL that way!). Our 'issue' doesn't define who we are, it is a part of our lives, it may even be a part of our identity...like our colour, race, religion, sexuality or disability, but it is still only a PART......and I don't believe it is personally productive to allow that issue to define the whole person.
I am not sure this came out right....I do hope so.
HM
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Theresa
Bumppo's Tavern Proprietress
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Posted - August 23 2002 : 08:33:56 AM
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I think it came out just fine, Adele. 
Eloquently put!
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caitlin
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Diane B.
Colonial Militia
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Posted - August 23 2002 : 8:45:30 PM
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Huggy,
That was just so, so...perfect! You did a much better job of saying what I was attempting to say to Anthony than I did, that's for sure! Unfortunately, I think Anthony misunderstood my post. It was never my intention to make Anthony feel unwelcome, or to hurt his feelings or make him go away. I was trying to "kiss" the issue (Keep It Short and Sweet) but sometimes, saying too little can be as bad as saying too much. I hope that Anthony will also read your post and that will help clear things up a bit.
Anthony, if you read this, I hope you will accept my sincere apologies for anything that I wrote that upset you in any way. Everyone is different and it's our differences that make us beautiful. "Please consider that!" I do hope you'll accept my apology and return to the Board soon.
I know you're not a coffee drinker, but how about smoothing things over with a "virtual beer"??? 
Rattlesnake Woman
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Anthony
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USA
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Posted - August 26 2002 : 12:13:13 PM
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But Diane B .............Rolling Rock beer will do us 2 Just Fine.........no need to apologize. Diane..i was WRONG! and the strange thing is....im not that 'G..................all my friends call me a traitor cause im very oppossitte of all that 'G........stuff...and dont look it or act it and loathe the cliche G...things and am realley very conservative....but ...in a bb and mess brd. this is Not the Only one i did this @ , i seem to use that as a humour & Ice Breaker for jokes and Other things and SHOULD lay 'OFF' of that for a while.... i do CONCEDE! Diane...so where that BEER ....Gal??........................... MuchLove & Needed Respect to ya Diane B...............Anthony...........not anyone special.. but just like YOU all........:):):)
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Diane B.
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Posted - August 26 2002 : 1:02:34 PM
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Hey, Anth,
I checked the beer cooler & did not find any Rolling Rock but I've got several longneck Killian's Irish Red on ice - will that do???
Rattlesnake Woman
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Stephanie
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Posted - August 29 2002 : 5:15:51 PM
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Wow Huggy, you hit the nail on the head. And you helped me without even knowing it. Sometimes whatever our 'issue' is seems to jump out at us throughout the day, but perhaps subconsciously we are looking for it. Not sure if that makes sense but your posting sure made sense to me.
Stephanie
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Adele
The Huggy Merchant
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Posted - August 29 2002 : 6:00:40 PM
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quote:
Wow Huggy, you hit the nail on the head. And you helped me without even knowing it. Sometimes whatever our 'issue' is seems to jump out at us throughout the day, but perhaps subconsciously we are looking for it. Not sure if that makes sense but your posting sure made sense to me.
Stephanie
Makes total sense to me....glad it helped.
HM
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Anthony
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Posted - September 23 2002 : 4:04:17 PM
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The Only thing that makes SENSE to me is my Real Close Cyber 'e' affair with Bea....this Women is a Users ~Godsend~ of love and compassion and ....well .... she's ``Hot``..........a 'bi' soon kinda Anth ..........Just 4 bea ...heheheh ........Dear Dear .EVERYONE..............INDEED wow a Post heading Just 4 lil ole Complex and Wierd aAnth..... if u only knew my 'Real' "SCHOLL OF HARD KNOX" life sory??.,K? NO .OH! K NO!TUFF!
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Anthony
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Posted - October 04 2002 : 1:42:49 PM
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why do some @ a few sights incl this Great one..always say IM such a .um.Charachter....my spouse thinks its a good compliment i say im 'Cyber misunderstood' BUT Funny as hell ........and some want to SHOOT me...im me ...thats all.............what are some of my flaws .tell me..........ill either cry, change or just plain jump outa my 97th floor window and you'll be free of Anth ..........lemmie know...............a wonderin wierded out *NYanth*
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