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| Dillon1836 |
Posted - July 17 2007 : 2:15:20 PM
Hello everyone,
It's been a while since I last posted. Alot has been happening with my life lately. I'll go ahead and fill you all in.
On May 21st, I graduated from highschool and am hoping to go into my local community college here in the fall. So, now, I'm enjoying summer and have been busy spending time with family and friends.
Me and Raven have been on and off. But we're still hopelessly in love with one another. Here's a photo of us at my senior prom.
I'm suppose to spend the whole day with her and her family tommorow. I might even cook them dinner.
As for anything concerning the Alamo, the deaths of Thomas Ricks Lindley, author of Alamo Traces, and the apparent suicide attempt of Jerry Hadley, 3 time Grammy winner for his amazing tenor vocals, has darkened the past two weeks. Below is a photo of me and Jerry when I visited the set from the recent Alamo film last March.
He had suffered heavy brain damage and was removed from life support yesterday. Now, it's only a matter of time. I don't remember ever seeing a smile leave his face.
As for my other Alamo endeavors, I have been fortunate enough to interview several within the Alamo field! Including, director John Lee Hancock (The Alamo & The Rookie), costume designer Daniel Orlandi (The Alamo, Cinderella Man, Apollo 13,etc.), and actor Kevin Page (Micajah Autry in The Alamo)! Visit the following link to read the interviews!
http://www.alamosentry.com/phpBB3/viewforum.php?f=14
As for the above, that's been about it lately. I've just been relaxing and enjoying my summer vacation. I've also been going through certain moments of my life where you experience who your true friends are. And that's been drama filled. But, I'm getting through it with ease.
All the best,
Wade
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| blackfootblood |
Posted - October 26 2007 : 4:49:45 PM
Well Wade, what else can I say that the other women on the board have not. They pretty much summed everything up! I perceive you to be a wonderful young adult with a bright future ahead of yourself. Move forward in a positive attitude and keep your head high. You will find a wonderful woman to fill your heart, but it may take time. Be patient. Best of luck on your new venture!! 
Oh, by the way, I totally agree with Irish on this one, you are so much better lookin' than that other guy!!  |
| caitlin |
Posted - October 26 2007 : 4:10:58 PM
Hi Wade,
I'm so sorry to hear about all of this. Yup, teenage years sure can be challenging, but somehow we all have made it through them - making us stronger and hopefully all for the better!
As WW and the others have said, you are a special young man and have a great future ahead of you! It is her loss! Enjoy your youth, spread your wings and know that you have friends here in Mohicanland and we are here to lend an ear! 
Caitlin |
| Gadget Girl |
Posted - October 26 2007 : 11:08:56 AM
Just as all the other gals have said, I will add my feelings of sadness for what you have been through. You are such a special young man and I just know there are WAY better things waiting for you in the future!! You sure are a smart feller!
YOU are definitely the winner here!!!! The future holds nothing but wonderful possibilities for you!
GG |
| Kaylynn44 |
Posted - October 26 2007 : 10:20:31 AM
Dear Wade,
My heart goes out to you, but I do know that you will find the right girl one day. My son went through a similar experience earlier this year. He was in love with a girl but he found out that she was cheating on him with an old boyfriend. Michael forgave her the first time that she cheated on him, but when he found out that she was still seeing the other guy, he broke off their relationship. He has since met this wonderful girl. She is so sweet and I would be very happy to call her my daughter. So just know that although things didn't work out with Raven, (which by the way is a tremendous loss for her), you will find the right girl one day. Just be patient, and she will come along.
Love,
Kay |
| Irishgirl |
Posted - October 26 2007 : 09:56:40 AM
Sorry to hear about all of this Wade but you sound like you have the right attitude about it all which is amazing for one so young. The teenage years are very difficult and hard to cope with with but you have a good head on your shoulders. Like you are doing, just let her go and you will find your "love" some day in the future.
Just for the record, you are way better looking than that "dude". Keep smiling....... |
| Wilderness Woman |
Posted - October 26 2007 : 06:35:57 AM
Wade,
I am so very sorry that it has turned out this way. But, at least now you know for certain what has been going on. I have said it before and I will say it again: you are an amazing young man. I read your words and I marvel at the wisdom and maturity that you show. And you know what? Although I am certainly sympathizing with you, I am not worried about you. You can and will get through the heartache and pain of this. Your heart will heal, although it won't be easy.
Wade, I just know there is a wonderful young woman out there who is just waiting for you to come along and be her White Knight and sweep her off her feet. She will share your passions for the things you love in your life. And she will know in her heart that you have been worth waiting for. Sorry to be trite here, but.... You will find her!
So, hang in there, my young friend. It will get better.
Love,
Joyce |
| Dillon1836 |
Posted - October 26 2007 : 05:24:26 AM
Hello everyone,
I finally saw Raven again on the 22nd during the Cross Country Conference Meet. It was there that after I poured my heart to her, that she told me she just wanted to be friends. She wouldn't allow me to hold her hand or kiss her goodbye. Raven created bogus excuses as to why she wanted to end the relationship of 2 and a half years. I knew quite enthusiasticly that we could work our problems out. Well, she was convinced otherwise...giving up quite easily. She didn't want to hear it. This was something I hadn't seen from her before. Although, I was happy to hear her voice as she continued to tell me on the phone that she loved me.
Since then, many suspicious clues through Myspace continued to lead me to finally find out that Raven was, indeed, cheating on me and already had a new guy wrapped around her finger. If all of you are familiar with myspace, you can create a friends list and usually the closest people to you are at the very top. Her new guy was #1....and I dropped to #8. Sure, not a big deal to most adults...but in this day and age, it's a big sign of favoritism.
http://i67.photobucket.com/albums/h285/SentryatHeart/cheat.jpg
There they are. That's her new default photo on Myspace. A comment to Raven today read "Hey, I saw you and your boyfriend after school today. You two looked so cute so close like that." As soon as I read that, the light bulb went off in my head and I grew sick. I wasn't with her today. I live 45 minutes away. Then, all the pieces of the puzzle came together. Raven was seeing someone else.
She had lied and manipulated me into believing there was a chance that we could get back together. I was in a constant state of confusion. Her obvious intentions were to keep me as a last resort incase her current efforts with the new guy, Carson, didn't work the way she wanted. She's gone as far as to convince her friends as if she's the victim, when she's the one who has cheated on me. She even told her friend, on her friend's myspace, that "ex's are annoying" and that "I (Wade) need to get a life". Not only that, but for the last couple of weeks, she grew irregulary distant and there was a huge lack of communication. Note, that yesterday, she told me that she loved me over the phone.
So, today, I revealed to Raven that I caught her and that I knew what she was doing behind my back. I was angry and felt used and approached her through a message. It was not polite, it was straight forward and to the point. Here's what she had to say in response...
" i told you to let me go.....so i am doing it for you....goodbye.....you are a ******* loser and needs to get a life and stop living mine.....I HATE YOU!!!"
And regarding her new relationship...."it is none of your business"
From her hostile tone and behavior, I could tell that she was angry that I caught her and that I revealed her for who she really is. A girl who doesn't know what she wants. But, I can't completely blame her for that, most girls her age are going through the same thing. Even guys. Raven was no longer in love with me.
And so, I reflect on the two and a half years I spent with her and I try and look back at what I learned. It'll come to me in time. Raven showed me alot and through each other, we learned so much about relationships and about people. I have to thank her for that. But, in the end....I was blinded by love and she was blinded by stupidity. She chose not to think and she didn't handle it responsibly. Raven could've told me that she met someone.Instead, she caused drama for her, myself, and her friends. Now, sadly, we're over and the chances we'll be friends is slim to nill.
I am, in no way, trying to exploit or embarrass Raven. I am just telling my story the way it is. I appreciate all of the support and input you all have given me throughout the years and am very thankful for it. A new chapter of my life is about to begin. While I wished Raven would continue to grow up w |
| Dillon1836 |
Posted - October 16 2007 : 3:48:34 PM
Thank you Kay,Light of the Moon, and Rich for your kind words. I'm hanging in there!
Joyce, I've always appreciated your thoughts. And your words have helped me many times over the years and I am thankful for your support and of everyone here in Mohicanland. It's helped me alot. You seem like a wonderful mother. One with great guidance.
Again, thank you all. I will keep you all posted. Expect something very soon. In the meantime, I am trying to keep busy and I'm holding my head high.
~Wade
P.S. In David Crockett's narrative, he faced my same problem at the age of 19. While slightly different, a woman by the name of Margarett Elder left him before their wedding night for another man. It left him hurt, but he moved on. And as you all know, David Crockett is my hero. Comes to show that even the best of people face the same issues. Knowing this, it lifted me up, knowing that I can overcome whatever faces me. |
| richfed |
Posted - October 16 2007 : 06:51:50 AM
Been there, Wade --- hang tough, young man!
And always, Remember the Alamo! |
| Wilderness Woman |
Posted - October 16 2007 : 06:49:31 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Dillon1836
...her parents only allowed me to talk to her for five minutes! Not enough was said, especially when they stood by listening. For some reason, they've never liked me. I don't know why.
Well, I just don't understand this at all.
Wade, we have never met in person, but I have known you on these boards for several years now and I have to tell you that rarely have I known a teen-ager who seems to be as amazing as you are in so many ways. I am proud to be able to say that my own son is one. I think you are an awesome young man, and I would be so pleased if my daughter were interested in someone like you! In fact, I would be proud to have you for another son!
Now, I do have another thought to offer to you for your consideration: have you thought of the possibility that Raven might have asked her parents to be there while you were visiting? This could have been her way of putting up a sort of protective barrier between you and her. It doesn't necessarily mean she is guilty of seeing someone else, but it could mean that there is something going on that she doesn't want a confrontation over. She could have been nervous about what you were going to say to her, for whatever reason.
I hope that you are able to see her without her parents being in the same room with you, and I hope that you will be able to work things out. You have my thoughts and prayers with you. Above all... just keep being the same wonderful person you are.
Joyce |
| Light of the Moon |
Posted - October 16 2007 : 01:36:00 AM
Copy that. I'll be praying for you. God Bless. |
| Kaylynn44 |
Posted - October 15 2007 : 10:05:03 PM
Wade,
I know that you have been very respectful here on the board and if it helps any, we love you!!! 
I hope that you and Raven get to sit down and have that long talk all by yourselves. Good luck sweetie!!!
Love,
Kay |
| Dillon1836 |
Posted - October 15 2007 : 9:55:31 PM
Hello everyone,
The past week or so has been really rough. I've felt crippled, emotionally. I haven't been myself at all. When I made the trip out to see her the other day, her parents only allowed me to talk to her for five minutes! Not enough was said, especially when they stood by listening. For some reason, they've never liked me. I don't know why. I show and give respect and get along with most adults! Her parents' actions and thoughts concerning me leave me baffled. I mean, in my historical field of interest, I interact mostly with adults. So, I know how to be around people. Even if I am the youngest in the field. Raven's parents have been one of the biggest obstacles to overcome.
Anyway, I'm hoping to see Raven soon. And you can bet, we're going to have a long talk. I know what to say, but I don't know if it will fix things. She's said she hasn't been disloyal, but that's not the only problem we have to discuss. Wish me luck. I will need it. I've appreciated all the advice and kind words.
All the best,
Wade
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| Light of the Moon |
Posted - October 12 2007 : 12:07:38 AM
 Aw! You mean I can't talk about you know who?
Teasin'! Sorry, Wade, couldn't resist.
I really do hope that everything works out well for you two! Good Luck! |
| Wilderness Woman |
Posted - October 11 2007 : 10:16:47 AM
Uh..... No. I think not, Obi. 
Now, let's not get Wade's serious thread off track, please. |
| Obediah |
Posted - October 11 2007 : 09:39:13 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Wilderness Woman
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Oh and... keep on being that "hopeless romantic." Ladies like that in a man!
Yeah, just look at me! There's nothing more romantic than a mudpit! |
| Wilderness Woman |
Posted - October 11 2007 : 07:57:52 AM
Wade, you are a special young man. But I think I've told you that before over the years.
It sounds like you are approaching the situation the right way. I hope that after your nice, long talk, you do, indeed, find out that it was all a miscommunication. Good luck!
Oh and... keep on being that "hopeless romantic." Ladies like that in a man! |
| Dillon1836 |
Posted - October 11 2007 : 07:52:36 AM
Thank you, Joyce, for the advice and all of you for the kind words.
Being a hopeless romantic, I traveled across town by city bus to see Raven after she got out of school. We spoke and I was calm and cordial, but there's still alot of questions that need to be answered. The problem may be misscommunication. So, I made it a point that the two of us need to have a nice, long talk. I'll keep you all posted as I find things out. Again, thank you!
~Wade |
| Light of the Moon |
Posted - October 10 2007 : 1:33:25 PM
So sorry, Wade! We're here for you!
WW gave some pretty solid and awesome advice. Take it. |
| Irishgirl |
Posted - October 10 2007 : 11:07:55 AM
You've been given some good advice already Wade, so all I have to add is hang in there hon and hope all works out for you |
| Obediah |
Posted - October 10 2007 : 09:45:36 AM
Yeah, what WW said. And when you finally go through the whole painful process and decide what you are going to do, "be sure you're right and then go ahead!" We'll be praying for you. |
| blackfootblood |
Posted - October 10 2007 : 07:58:14 AM
Hey Wade,
Sorry to hear this is happening to you. All I can say is for you to confront the problem in an adult way because avoiding it won't make it go away. It only worsens the pain. Like the girls above said, calm and collective talking, no yelling. Do take care of yourself, you really do seem like a nice guy, you don't need to go through this. Keep us posted.
Melissa |
| Kaylynn44 |
Posted - October 10 2007 : 07:25:28 AM
Wade,
It is so heartbreaking when someone that you love isn't being faithful, but listen to the advice that WW gave you. Don't get mad, just talk to her. I wish you luck sweetie!!! You know that we all love you here and if you ever need to talk, we are here for you!!!
Love,
Kay |
| Wilderness Woman |
Posted - October 10 2007 : 06:41:02 AM
Oh, Wade. I am so sorry to hear this. I'm not sure about how much good advice I can give you, but here is my thought...
Be careful about your source of information. If someone has told you about the alleged unfaithfulness of Raven, be wary. Sometimes people have their own agendas, whether it be jealousy, anger or just plain maliciousness. Consider the source very carefully.
If you feel your source is reliable, or if you have seen something with your own eyes, you may need to have a talk with Raven. But... be kind and gentle. Be sincere and loving, and be fair. No anger, no yelling. Talk it out. Listen to her with your mind open and your heart clear. Then evaluate the situation. You will have to decide whether you can believe her or not.
I hope it isn't true. Keep us posted, will you?
Joyce |
| Dillon1836 |
Posted - October 10 2007 : 04:42:37 AM
I have good reason to believe that Raven is seeing someone behind my back. I'm devastated and could really use some advice right now. Thanks.
~Wade |
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