Re: Back to happier thoughts... strength and hope & my LAST comment

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Posted by Marcia on October 09, 1999 at 08:35:47:

In Reply to: Back to happier thoughts... strength and hope posted by Petra on October 09, 1999 at 03:04:05:

Petra writes:
:And much strength and hope to you too, for whatever you may need it! We all do.

Well, I guess that's true, as I'm calling on some even as I type. Petra, I do not imagine that you are only the person you sometimes seem to be on this board. I have no doubt that you are a person with many other facets, as most of us are. What has bothered me most about ALL of this discussion is not what you think as HOW you expressed it. If you do not understand that, then there's not much left to say, except one thing. Perhaps this is because of the way I was raised, but I know for a fact that if I posted something that caused hurt and angry feelings, ESPECIALLY, MOST OF ALL, if that was NOT my intent, the first words out of my "keyboard" afterwards would be "I'm SO sorry!", followed by something akin to "Perhaps I did not express myself well," or "I didn't mean to upset you," or "That didn't come out like I intended," or even, "I was having a bad day, and was too abrupt in my remarks." Something to let the other person know I not only didn't INTEND to be hurtful, but I was sorry I had accidentally been so.

It makes no sense to me at all to be perfectly aware that people were angry and hurt, and not at least offer a TOKEN apology for being the cause of such hurt, whether or not it was intended. People do apologize for accidents, too.

However, that's just how *I* feel, and as I said, it may be because of the way I was brought up. Maybe I'm wrong, but I'd rather err on the side of being kind to people, which I can do easily, without compromising my personal beliefs. I believe in that with all my heart. Now I'm off for a day at Universal Studios, where I intend to have fun, and when I come back, that's what I intend to resume doing on this board.

Marcia

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: Petra writes:
: :And much strength and hope to you too, for whatever you may need it! We all do.

: Well, I guess that's true, as I'm calling on some even as I type. Petra, I do not imagine that you are only the person you sometimes seem to be on this board. I have no doubt that you are a person with many other facets, as most of us are. What has bothered me most about ALL of this discussion is not what you think as HOW you expressed it. If you do not understand that, then there's not much left to say, except one thing. Perhaps this is because of the way I was raised, but I know for a fact that if I posted something that caused hurt and angry feelings, ESPECIALLY, MOST OF ALL, if that was NOT my intent, the first words out of my "keyboard" afterwards would be "I'm SO sorry!", followed by something akin to "Perhaps I did not express myself well," or "I didn't mean to upset you," or "That didn't come out like I intended," or even, "I was having a bad day, and was too abrupt in my remarks." Something to let the other person know I not only didn't INTEND to be hurtful, but I was sorry I had accidentally been so.

: It makes no sense to me at all to be perfectly aware that people were angry and hurt, and not at least offer a TOKEN apology for being the cause of such hurt, whether or not it was intended. People do apologize for accidents, too.

: However, that's just how *I* feel, and as I said, it may be because of the way I was brought up. Maybe I'm wrong, but I'd rather err on the side of being kind to people, which I can do easily, without compromising my personal beliefs. I believe in that with all my heart. Now I'm off for a day at Universal Studios, where I intend to have fun, and when I come back, that's what I intend to resume doing on this board.

: Marcia

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